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Critics Can Keep You Sharp

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Have you ever had a colleague/co-worker who really gets under your skin? It seems that every time you have any interaction with them, they say or doing something that nearly sends you through the roof? I do my best to control my emotional response and reaction to things that truly irritate me. But there are 'some people' who constantly say things in ways that definitely rub me the wrong way. I have them in my life experience. I'm sure you do as well.

The good news about critics is, they can be beneficial to you if you view them and use their criticisms in the right way. Though I am confident that their actions are not intended to help you or make things better for you, nonetheless, you CAN use their actions, words, criticisms, etc., to your advantage. 

First, you need to ask yourself why you get so easily irritated by these people (or this person). What is it that they bring out of you that you need to deal with? More importantly, what irritates you is likely something that you fear. You need to focus on what that is and do your best to sharpen your skills, ideas, knowledge or attitudes regarding it.

Make no mistake. I have no notion that your or my critics are consciously trying to make either of us better. They are not. They are often misguided people who are dealing with their own inadequacies, prejudices and insecurities. They are often controversial, obnoxious, arrogant, antagonistic and quarrelsome people. They aren't people you are likely going to 'fix'. 

The best use for these kinds of people (who are unavoidable in life) is to take their criticism and look inward at yourself. How can you use their irritations to make you better? It takes you going to higher level of wisdom than you've likely considered in the past. It takes the acceptance that on a grander scale of things, they are in your life for a reason. It takes the full realization that they aren't doing what they're doing to make you or your life better. However, YOU can make their actions, opinions and irritations work FOR you rather than simply upset you. But, it is up to you. It starts with your perspective on their presence in your life and what you will do with this discomfort that they bring you.

(Opinions of the writer in this blog don't represent those of China Daily.)


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Michael is the author of the transformational book, Powerful Attitudes. He is a professional educator, an educational consultant, an author. He lives in Zhengzhou, Henan Province. He enjoys playing guitar and writing poetry. He loves China.

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