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A little story of Nicole

Popularity 4Viewed 6978 times 2013-12-27 19:34 |Personal category:Growing with my daughter|System category:Life| desired, noticed, several, started, simple

Now Nicole is in her 17th month. She grows well, her height and weight are among the seventy-fifth percentile group. The rate of development is also normal: she can walk well, steadily and fast; can use several simple words; can point to a desired object; can drink from a cup. These are all great things making us parents joyful.

Two months ago, the time when she started walking alone, I noticed that she has a habit of throwing things which she doesn't like. This is undoubtably not a good behaviour in my eyes. Especially sometime she tests me by flinging it while looking at me, which is exasperating. But I know that i cannot ban her throwing entirely, because she is so excited knowing that she grasps a new skill. Some experts said that banning a small toddler's certain behaviour might deprive her of the opportunity to practise a developmentally appropriate skill. I totally agree with it, thus my job, although it may sound tricky, is to encourage her to practise the new skill without making our home in a mess.

I had to find a solution for this. The book 'What to Expect' is a very useful manual raising a child. It even gives suggestions on how to encourage this in a meaningful way. I followed the instructions to start the spring training, to play with Nicole throwing a ball. In the meantime, I tried to let her know that some things are meant to be thrown, like balls, paper airplanes, and so on, while others are not, like cups, toys, blocks. Explaining to her again and again: "Can you tell me what it is? It's a ball- a ball is for throwing. And this a book. You can't throw a book- it's for reading."

Two months passed, I'm now so happy to see that she is always putting one thing aside on the floor, or on the sofa, etc., before she is going to pick up another thing. She has gradually gained a good habit.

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Reply Report voice_cd 2013-12-28 14:12
What a happy mom !
Reply Report voice_cd 2013-12-28 14:19
Better start a headline for your article next time thus we could recommend it to the homepage easily!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2013-12-30 06:04
Thanks for reading and thanks for your comments and suggestions!
Reply Report Smaug 2013-12-30 22:26
Thanks for sharing, I will look up this book for my toddler. (22 months old) Mine likes to start playing with and throwing food when she is done eating, which I discourage, of course. ...and I teach her to throw a ball and a foam airplane. She is catching on. It is hard that we are in this cold climate and don't go outside, as most of the throwing is for outside only.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2014-1-2 19:01
Thanks! the full name is 'what to expect the toddler years', and the book is written by Heidi Murkoff. Hope it will be useful!
Reply Report Dr.Bill.Shen 2014-1-3 08:57
Try "Curious George" by Rey. The little monkey story can illustrate a better sense of right or wrong.  Otherwise you just can not simply reason with a toddler. With the help of George, you can tell your kid about the scary consequence when last time George did similar thing.
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2014-1-3 23:08
Dr.Bill.Shen: Try "Curious George" by Rey. The little monkey story can illustrate a better sense of right or wrong.  Otherwise you just can not simply rea ...
Thanks for the suggestion!
Reply Report Judy_Zhu 2014-1-3 23:10
we are now watching the monkey on ice.
Reply Report futureyd 2014-1-16 14:54
good good study  

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