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Will you go blind date ?

Popularity 18Viewed 3726 times 2014-5-29 22:08 |Personal category:life|System category:Life| blind, date


It’s said that in China the sexual ratio between man and woman has reached incredible imbalance  and nearly 30 million men would find it extremely difficult to find a wife in near 10 years if without any mitigation measures.


I have no idea often why the situation will be so serious because I have been spending most of my time staying in a situation where boys are always rare animals , for I am an art student. In such class, no girl would feel the importance or pride of being a girl , even worse is that we girls gradually have to protect the only existing sissy boys. Bad feeling!


Now , most of my friends are in our 20th and many of us still have no boyfriend even some beautiful girls. The result is that some of my friends are forced to go blind date arranged by their parents every time they go home. Out of Chinese tradition, the husband is supposed to be some years older than the wife, so my friends often have to date with an older strange man with better economic background but always without common topics. One of my best friends who is very beautiful complained to me after another blind date: it’s terrible! He said nothing interesting but walked with me silently. My parents always want me to marry a rich man thus the whole family can benefit from this marriage. How can they do that to me ? it’s really awkward. But ,but sometimes I feel so helpless and I nearly give up rebelling against their wish ,anyway it’s good for me in the long run. I was so shocked and sad hearing that. For me , I don’t want to worry too much about the future things and I am a little idealism .But my parents care much about that as if my marriage is impossible without their care. Once,my mother shouted at me on the phone that if it hadn’t been that I was still in school I should have got married. Jesus! I never know my mother had such a stupid idea. I, at that moment ,was raged and shouted back : it’s none your business.

  

If a Chinese girl bring a man home and tell his parents she wants to marry this poor man, she is likely to  be locked at home and the man will be persuaded away. Sound like a Shakespeare’s tragedy? My cousin is the heroine in this story because she is the only girl in family.

  

Love sometimes hurts the people you love. Blind date is a safe and reliable way to have marriage in Chinese parents’ eyes. But how can we resist the disgust arouse by the imposed actions when we are not eager to rush into marriage? 

                Will you accept blind date especially arranged by parents?

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Reply Report voice_cd 2014-5-30 09:47
Thanks for sharing your story here, we have highlighted your blog.
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-30 11:15
I have once!    see my post on Blind Dates in UK!
Reply Report 王豆浆 2014-5-30 11:34
Dating with a strange man would make me uncomfortable.
Reply Report Predestinedway 2014-5-30 11:52
王豆浆: Dating with a strange man would make me uncomfortable.
yeah,it's true. sometimes the man even pursue you enthusiastically, it only makes the girls more speechless.
Reply Report YupingZhang 2014-5-30 11:53
Could you have a blind date with me?I am single and I am looking for a girlfriend?   
Reply Report YupingZhang 2014-5-30 11:55
王豆浆: Dating with a strange man would make me uncomfortable.
   Having a date with a strange girl always makes me comfortable.
Reply Report teamkrejados 2014-5-30 12:16
Never! Never again will I suffer through a blind date, or even online dating!
Reply Report Predestinedway 2014-5-30 12:24
YupingZhang: Could you have a blind date with me?I am single and I am looking for a girlfriend?    
thank you for words but don't you notice that i am against blind dating.
Reply Report Predestinedway 2014-5-30 12:35
teamkrejados: Never! Never again will I suffer through a blind date, or even online dating!
it seemed something terrible happened to you
Reply Report 王豆浆 2014-5-30 12:37
Predestinedway: yeah,it's true. sometimes the man even pursue you enthusiastically, it only makes the girls more speechless.
I have same thoughts with you.BTW,the picture is interesting and vivid.
Reply Report Maierwei 2014-5-30 12:43
Very sad!  
Reply Report Predestinedway 2014-5-30 12:50
Maierwei: Very sad!   
sad about my cousin's experience?
Reply Report Maierwei 2014-5-30 13:05
Predestinedway: sad about my cousin's experience?
Your cousin, your beautiful friend and the situation in general...
Reply Report Predestinedway 2014-5-30 13:18
Maierwei: Your cousin, your beautiful friend and the situation in general...
it's not the situation in whole China, just the people around me. actually , out of fear ,often too radical i just want to be single forever.
Reply Report teamkrejados 2014-5-30 13:27
Predestinedway: it seemed something terrible happened to you
And how! Would you like me to tell you?
Reply Report Maierwei 2014-5-30 13:34
Predestinedway: it's not the situation in whole China, just the people around me. actually , out of fear ,often too radical i just want to be single forever.
Unfortunately it's not only the people around you, also around me and many others on this blog.
Reply Report YupingZhang 2014-5-30 13:39
Predestinedway: thank you for words but don't you notice that i am against blind dating.
I were thinking whether you could give me a chance that you would make an exception for me by having a blind date with me in
spite of your willing.     
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-30 14:43
teamkrejados: And how! Would you like me to tell you?
I guess it was more than he didn't pay at least half the bill?   
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-30 14:52
王豆浆: Dating with a strange man would make me uncomfortable.
There are two meanings of strange here: strange as in a stranger - but remember that the closest friends were strangers once!   . Then there is strange as in peculiar!  Like you have a blind date with a guy who yells out YES every three minutes and only talks about smartphone gaming apps!  
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2014-5-30 14:54
Predestinedway: yeah,it's true. sometimes the man even pursue you enthusiastically, it only makes the girls more speechless.
Is that worse than the guy that does not pursue you and unenthusiastically?

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