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Is This Kind of Betrayal Acceptable?

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Last night, my husbands uncle and his new girlfriend drove to our house in Langzhong City. They set out from Shaanxi province, where the uncle has been working for years as a building contractor and made quite a lot of money. 

 

My husbands uncle got divorced about 15 years ago, his wife dumped him, leaving him and their little child behind. Years later, through a match-maker, he met his present wife, who had already been a single mother at that time. Theyve lived together  until now, although they havent so far intended to get a legal marriage license. They dont have their common child because they dont think its necessary since they both have children from their ex-marriages. 

 

Unfortunately, not long after they lived together, our uncles new wife was diagnosed with a few healthy problems, such as high blood pressure and diabetes, and her life has since then been sustained by medicine. In recent years, her physical conditions seem to have worsened so much so that she has to move with the help of a walking stick, it has brought much inconvenience to herself and also to her family. 

 

After she found her husband has betrayed her, she was very anxious and anguished. She tries to ask her own relatives, including her own blood sisters and daughter, for help, trying to stop his affairs. However, all her efforts have been in vain. Why? Because all these years, our uncle has been quite good to her, her daughter and her sisters as well, and has lavished much money on them. He has never been stingy with her huge yearly medical expenditure and always does whatever she asks, yes, whatever, yet excluding his affairs with his new girlfriend. Most of her relatives just keep silent about this matter, only one of her sisters tells her to feel content with her lot and turn a blind eye to it as long as he still covers all her medical and daily costs. However, it seems that she doesnt feel content and is still struggling, but alone.

 

Uncles new girlfriend, aged 34, 15 years younger than him, works in a drugstore in Shaanxi. She is still married and lives with her 9-year-old son and mother-in-law, her husband is said to be making money all year round somewhere in a neighboring province and doesnt show much concern about her. She is short and thin and not quite good-looking, yet not quite bad from my first impression. 

 

Quite a few people they know are questioning the seriousness of his girlfriend upon their affairs. Many believe she just wants his money.  As to me, I think nothing is impossible. Then, my dear readers, how do you think? Do you think this kind of betrayal is acceptable? And do you think the two lovers can finally get somewhere? Please feel free to drop a comment.

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Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 11:20
This is a complicated scenario. The uncle seems to have once suffered betrayal himself. That might harden the heart. Then he gets a new partner through match making - many have debated if that route can find true love!  Perhaps it finds companionship and someone to care for! The uncle seems generous. Yet if he finds true love later through real life meetings and not arranged meetings what is he to do?  Yet you point out the age gap and that might suggest that his new true love does not have reciprocal feelings but is after his money? Who knows? An age gap does not always mean that. Did his partner suffering from ill health grow to love him or his resources and help? Is she loving enough to him to keep him from looking elsewhere? There are often two sides to these things!
Reply Report SEARU 2015-4-4 12:57
I am afraid your uncle is playing with fire!
Reply Report springcastle 2015-4-4 13:56
Dear,your article is a bit difficult to read because the letters are smaller. Can you be kindly change the size of your alphabets?  
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 15:22
springcastle: Dear,your article is a bit difficult to read because the letters are smaller. Can you be kindly change the size of your alphabets?   
Thanks for your kind advice, but the words in my article don't seem small on my PC at all, they seem small on smart cellphones, but you know we can enlarge them  on cellphones.
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 15:53
ColinSpeakman: This is a complicated scenario. The uncle seems to have once suffered betrayal himself. That might harden the heart. Then he gets a new partner throug ...
His wife has been said to be very domineering all these years, even after she became disabled  a few years ago. She gave much money made by uncle to her own daughter and sisters. Uncle has taken good care of her, making dinner for her even after a whole day's hard work at the construction site. Many think she couldn't have lived so long if she hadn't met uncle, furthermore, they're not a legally married couple, and she hasn't given birth to any child for uncle, so she has to swallow hard.
As to his girlfriend, who knows she's serious or not about their relationships!Let's wait and see.
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 15:54
SEARU: I am afraid your uncle is playing with fire!
Hehe, who knows!
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 16:02
LanaLiao: His wife has been said to be very domineering all these years, even after she became disabled  a few years ago. She gave much money made by uncle to h ...
This may explain a few things.
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 16:06
springcastle: Dear,your article is a bit difficult to read because the letters are smaller. Can you be kindly change the size of your alphabets?   
On a touch screen device it is easy to expand the size to facilitate easier reading. An iPad is good for that  and so too are many of the latest small laptops.
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 16:07
LanaLiao: Thanks for your kind advice, but the words in my article don't seem small on my PC at all, they seem small on smart cellphones, but you know we can en ...
A similar point!  
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 16:08
LanaLiao: Hehe, who knows!
Fire can warm the heart!  
Reply Report springcastle 2015-4-4 17:37
ColinSpeakman: On a touch screen device it is easy to expand the size to facilitate easier reading. An iPad is good for that  and so too are many of the latest small ...
Yeah, I use I-pad in my office; it's easieir to look through the news at a fast speed. but at home i would rather use bigger sceened laptop. It's more convenient to type but i can't adjust the size. What a contradiction.  
Anyway i love both. I can have the cake and eat it.    
Reply Report springcastle 2015-4-4 17:41
LanaLiao: Thanks for your kind advice, but the words in my article don't seem small on my PC at all, they seem small on smart cellphones, but you know we can en ...
Okay, dear. I can use my I-pad. On the laptop, I can't change the size of words.  
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 18:51
ColinSpeakman: This may explain a few things.
Yes, a man needs understanding and care, but not orders, back home from a day's work, or the man may be inclined to look elsewhere. Does this apply to most men?
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 18:54
LanaLiao: Yes, a man needs understanding and care, but not orders, back home from a day's work, or the man may be inclined to look elsewhere. Does this apply to ...
In the West, we have the phrase: The henpecked husband. Do you know that phrase?
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 19:00
springcastle: Yeah, I use I-pad in my office; it's easieir to look through the news at a fast speed. but at home i would rather use bigger sceened laptop. It's more ...
True! I would like to see a new generation iPad which actually allowed a USB feature. Then I might give up the laptops!
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 20:19
ColinSpeakman: In the West, we have the phrase: The henpecked husband. Do you know that phrase?
Surely I know. I hope my husband is one of them, but unluckily he isn't.
Reply Report ColinSpeakman 2015-4-4 20:22
LanaLiao: Surely I know. I hope my husband is one of them, but unluckily he isn't.
But luckily for him!  
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 20:24
pimpernel2: My brother has just left his 3rd wife and gone to live on his own. I think his wife has always been a domineering, autocratic and a insensitive witch! ...
What? being dumped at 60? How long have they been married? I think what we need most in our old age is not money but love.
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 20:31
springcastle: Okay, dear. I can use my I-pad. On the laptop, I can't change the size of words.   
Sorry for the inconvenience brought to you, the problem is that everything here shown on my PC appears quite normal. Anyway, thanks for your support and patience.
Reply Report LanaLiao 2015-4-4 20:36
ColinSpeakman: But luckily for him!   
Haha, that's because I'm an understanding and liberal wife.

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